Posted by: mydarkestplaces | February 22, 2010

A Legacy of Love

A couple weeks ago, a friend wrote about saying, “I love you” to her parents. She’s been having a tough time with it for reasons x, y, and z. And although my reasons differ from what “Susie” has to say, I am all too familiar with the sentiment.

There was a time when my mom was my confidante. Any problem, issue or joy that I had, I would share with her. Every phone call was ended with an earnest “I love you,” every chance encounter a hug. Things changed that November. Since then the “I love you’s” have slowed to a trickle and the hugs are a reluctant endeavor. To be clear: this is not because I no longer share that sentiment.

My parents have taught me more about love than any romance novel, chick flick or coming of age story ever could. Their love for each other is such that they have survived 36 years of marriage and three adolescents. Along the way they’ve adopted our friends as their own, lent a firm (yet loving hand) to those without it, and always provided a safe space for any and all. They put aside their prejudices and experiences and allowed my brothers and I to formulate our own opinions. They allowed us to fail, allowed us to succeed, and allowed us to just “be.”

I was thinking of what my legacy will be 10, 20, 30 years from now. My parents have set the bar high. The web of love that stretches across the country and the world due to my parents is an admirable one. Someday I hope to leave as definite a mark.


  1. […] written a lot about the awesome influence that my parents have had in my life (hint: it’s immeasurable). But I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the other people who have helped in forming […]

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