Posted by: mydarkestplaces | May 5, 2025

Tattoos

If you’d told me when I was fourteen just how much money I would invest and just how many tattoos I would have as a forty year old I probably would have laughed in your face. Today I have multiple sittings and several hundred dollars invested into work that identifies me and tells some of my story.

I’m just working on being all in on my tattoos. Having an artist working on my ink helps. He doesn’t let me half ass my ink. Yes, I pay dearly for his work, but what he puts in my skin ends up being beautiful. These two are two of my most important. I need to remember to write and I need to remember to live.

There are some that are memorials or honorariums, there are some that are just whimsical, but I refuse to get any ink that won’t continue having meaning down the road.

I still have family to be represented on my body (I’m not forgetting you, Middle and Tall) so I’m excited to still have years of tattoos ahead.

Our weapons are but flowers
Faith and truth; SLU
Jada Star
Dad and Big
Mom’s favorite flower
Fire lizard

A tattoo wrapping around my wrist to say, “Unbroken.” Not something I always believe, but something I need to be reminded of.

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | September 19, 2024

Taxes

I try to avoid politics on my blogs, but sometimes I can’t help it. And Lord knows there’s a lot of politicking going on these days. But what’s inspired me today are taxes.

So I work in retail. As I have for twenty years so I know I’m paid fairly well for what I do. That being said I lose 1/3 of my pay every two weeks to taxes and benefits. The benefits aren’t my gripe. It’s the taxes.

I’m losing 20% of my paycheck every two weeks to taxes. Don’t get me wrong. I will happily pay taxes if it keeps roofs over head, food on plates, munitions and protection in soldiers’ hands.

Where my gripe is that someone who is a billionaire isn’t paying the same percentage. Not even saying, “Hold them to 20%.” Imagine if billionaires were taxed 10% of their earnings. Think they’d have enough left over to survive on?

Taxing billionaires at even a fraction of what I (we, you) are taxed could fund education, social security, Medicare and Medicaid, without breaking a sweat.

Again. I am happy to do my bit to fund social services. I’m not able to donate millions of dollars to nonprofits so my several thousand dollars in taxes will have to do my bit for me.

I just ask that before you get up in arms about taxing the wealthy on a similar scale to the scale you are taxed on you crunch some numbers. A single billionaire would still be walking home with 900 million end of year.

Inflation is horrid right now, but they should be able to shop at Target still.

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | August 11, 2024

Return to Stalin

Because I’m me I’m returning to Stalin research. I’ve overshot the anniversary of the Russian Revolution by seven years, but with growing despotism in the world it still feels like a book about the Russian tyrant still needs to be written.

If you’re new to this idea I’ve been wanting to write a book about Stalin that’s consumable by non-academics, but is more academically sourced. This is why I’m actually reading the books I cited in my college papers about the same. This is why I’ve bought access to journal articles. This is why I’ve upgraded my computer.

All a typical long lead in.

This morning I’m taking notes from The Great Terror: A Reassessment by Robert Conquest. I was struck by this, “It was precisely his lack of brilliance, his plainness, which inclined us to believe what he said.” (61)

This could be ascribed to US politics these days, particularly on the right. Donald Trump is not a brilliant politician. He’s able to get folks to ascribe to his politics, but it’s hard to say he has a vision other than a personal success.

Over and over I’m reading about how Stalin’s purges and killings were related to perceived insults to his capabilities and intelligence. Even Trump’s language shadows Stalin’s. Reading about purges of the staff who had originally been in the White House with him was downright terrifying. If you’ve studied any extreme governorship in the world you know it’s not too large a hop, skip, or jump from mass firings to mass killings.

I’m not saying there is a definitely going to be a mass and lethal purging if Nero gets back in office, but his language is suggesting he admires the routes Stalin took to get to power and the actions he took when and while there. Here is a post with sources showing how Stalin and Trump are similar.

We’ve had presidents and presidential candidates in my life time that I didn’t agree with and didn’t support, but my father always taught me to respect the office and the officer. I can’t support Donald Trump and his administration. He’s not just doing and saying things antithetical to my being, but he has me afraid. I’m not a real scholar, not by education or title, but I know enough to recognize patterns. And I’m seeing one.

Right now we have the right to support who we so choose. We can volunteer, we can speak up and out, we can write blog posts comparing a US President to a dictator, we can vote. Let’s vote in a way that can conserve these rights.

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | December 6, 2022

Graduation throwback

Alright, Laurentians. Here’s the speech I wrote for graduation senior year. I’m grateful to see many of my thoughts of our future have come to fruition.

“The past four years have been eventful, remarkable, and unforgettable. From family and friends lost along the way. Changes to the layout of campus. The ebb and flow of faculty and staff. The trials and tribulations of the past four years have forever left their mark on us. If you’re like me, you’ve made incredible friends, met inspirational mentors, and had an overall transformative growing experience. This may have happened in the classroom, the Greek system, a sports team, or a club or organization. Sure you may have toyed with the idea of transferring after the big loss, the low grade, or the disappointing election loss, but the thought of leaving St. Lawrence likely wrenched a part of your heart you were trying to deny existed. Today we are being forced to leave. For some of us, our contact will be limited to communication from Calling All Saints asking for a donation to the St. Lawrence Fund. But for many of us, we will remember being a pub major, the old Hoot Owl mix, Club Win, the Green Wall and no matter where we are either developmentally or geographically, we will remember St. Lawrence and the people who helped formulate our experience. And we’ll smile. Maybe cry. And call our friends and say, “Remember when…?” If I could entreat you to do one thing following graduation it would be stay in touch with the people you’ve loved for the past four years. Ours is the generation with the easiest access to communication. Everyone has email, many have cell phones, and almost all have Facebook. Ours is a privileged generation in that we can let the people we love and appreciate know that we do so. If our class achieves half of what we have the potential to we will change the world. Public health, medical school, high finance, grad school, teachers. Our class is going places. We just can’t forget those who helped along the way. Congratulations class of 2006.”

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | September 27, 2022

Stalin

So. As many of you know I’ve had a pipe dream of writing an academically sourced plebeian styled book about Stalin for a fair few years now. When I had a desk job I’d read and take notes at my desk, but being back in the retail world I’ve not found myself with that kind of flexibility.

This week, though. I’ve ended up with a couple extra days off so I’ve picked up a book again.

Stalin, Stalinism, and Soviet history remain hard topics to navigate, but I’ve read a few pages, highlighted a few passages, and learned a couple things.

I’m hoping I’ll be able to get more read, annotated, and maybe even written some day, but trust I still feel it mucho importante for the world to know and recognize Stalinist methods of government.

It’s the only way we’re going to prevent them from being employed again.

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | September 16, 2022

Courtesy of 2006 Kate

Some old notebooks of mine were recovered today. Among many of the remarkable things I wrote then was what my version of a commencement speech would be.

Instead of barraging a lot of people with what they likely don’t really care to read by texting or emailing I’m going to send it out to the Internet to read or ignore as you so choose.

“The past four years have been eventful, remarkable, and unforgettable. From family and friends lost along the way. Changes to the layout of campus. The ebb and flow of faculty and staff, the trials and tribulations of the past four years have forever left their mark on us. If you’re like me, you’ve made incredible friends, met inspirational mentors, and had an overall transformative growing experience. This may have happened in the classroom, the Greek system, a sports team, or a club or organization. Sure, you may have toyed with the idea of transferring after the big loss, the low grade, or the disappointing election loss, but the thought of leaving St. Lawrence likely wrenched a part of your heart that you were trying to deny existed. Today we are being forced to leave. For some of us, our contact will be limited to communication from Calling All Saints asking for a donation to the St. Lawrence Fund. But for many of us, we will remember being a pub major, the old Hoot Owl mix, Club Win, the Green wall, and no matter where we are, either developmentally or geographically, we will remember St. Lawrence and the people who helped formulate our experience. And we’ll smile. Maybe cry. And call our friends and say, “Remember when? …” If I could entreat you to do one thing following graduation it would be to stay in touch with the people you’ve loved for the past four years. Ours is the generation with the easiest access to communication – everyone has email, many have cell phones, and almost all have Facebook. Ours is a privileged generation in that we can let the people we love and appreciate know that we do so. If our class achieves half of what we have the potential to we will change the world. Public health, medical school, high finance, grad school, teachers. Our class is going places, we just can’t forget those who helped along the way.

Congratulations, Class of 2006.”

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | August 22, 2022

If you follow me on Twitter you saw my rant there earlier in regards to what I’m about to expand on here, and announce a new nickname for the 45th President.

First the announcement. I spent most of the last six years calling him Herr Cheeto. However I’ve switched it up. In my mind he’s now Nero Cheeto. Legend has it that Nero, a Roman emperor, sat aside while his city burned. And 45 still looks like a stale Cheeto. Seriously. He should have better stylists.

Now for the bulk of the post.

I’ve drawn, at least in my mind, a lot of parallels between Stalin and Nero Cheeto. Both renowned for setting folks up high then tearing them down again. The big difference is that most of the victims of Stalin’s tearing down ended up dead. At least as of now, the same can’t be said of Cheeto Nero.

However, think of the impediments to Cheeto Nero just offing his opponents and critics. Yes, he’s been kicked off Twitter and Facebook, but his most ardent supporters (largely) haven’t. Nor have critics. Or reporters. Or, or, or.

Can you imagine if Stalin had the internet to contend with/use?

I’m just saying this is a very versatile tool. It’s destroyed the lives of John and Jane Doe for nothing worse than a sign in their yard.

I was reading the testimony Alexander Orlov gave in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee, particularly the Subcommittee to Investigate the Administration of the Internal Security Act and Other Internal Security Laws. I just described Orlov, a “get out before he kills me” defector. In his heyday Orlov was a midlevel-Someone in the Soviet secret police. He’s someone who tailed and tattled on this, that, or the other critic of Stalin and the USSR. He’s someone who was without a doubt responsible for the deaths of multitudes, but he bartered the information his, and his family’s, safety. I’ve just been thinking about how he would, if he would have been able to, navigate if the Internet had existed then.

How does this connect to Nero Cheeto? He had, and has, the Internet as a tool. He’s so inept he hasn’t been able to fully utilize it’s capabilities. He shares “leadership” traits with Stalin, but there isn’t a road of deaths running behind him.

All to say, if Stalin had had the Internet his kill rate would have far exceeded the roughly 20 million believed to have been killed by him at this point.

Pardon the rambling. Maybe this will be an indicator that I’m ready to do Stalin research again.

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | June 24, 2022

Rant on Choice

Many of you know, but not all, that a month ago I had my uterus and ovaries removed. The chief reason is that every month my ovaries had a hormone dump that made me actively suicidal.

My amazing doctor had me on a shot to prevent that every couple months, and it was mostly effective, but she was reluctant to continue that treatment as there wasn’t a lot of convincing evidence about a continuation of the medicine not being detrimental.

Why was this important? Looking back at the past eight years the bulk of my hospitalizations for suicidality tied in REAL close with my premenstrual hormone dump. It was time to stop those dumps from ever happening again.

Having gotten through what would previously have been called PMS since the surgery I can tell you. Having these body parts removed has done a lot for me.

Today Roe v. Wade was overturned. Again taking away a woman’s right to choose

All I’ve been thinking of is that, were I living in the Red Sea, my choice to have this procedure, as ultimately live saving as it has already turned out to be, would have been nullified. Because I’m still of an age that producing a child isn’t unheard of.

Think about that. Reins on a woman’s reproductive organs doesn’t just tie to actively reproducing. It ties to our ability to reproduce. Doesn’t matter I was never going to reproduce I COULD have reproduced. So that’s reason enough to keep my body repeating these likely fatal processes.

This is not to say my choice of this procedure supersedes the choice of a rape victim or unprepared woman to terminate their pregnancy.

I’m just saying that we all find ourselves in situations where difficult decisions have to be made. I can guarantee a woman going in for an abortion isn’t doing so as a means of birth control.

And turns out. If you want fewer abortions one good way to prevent them is education and providing birth control and condoms baggage free. And actually penalizing men who rape and pillage our bodies frequently.

Tell me, Justices, Senators, and Representatives. What are your options going to be if your 17 year old daughter is raped and becomes pregnant?

What will you do then?

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | May 29, 2022

Return to Stalin…

As I’ve been public with other places I’m on medical leave for a hot month or two following a significant surgery. If you’ve interacted with me (as an adult) you know I’m going absolutely batty not being able to work.

But look! Here’s this project I started years ago that I haven’t gotten far in…at all…because turns out reading about the deaths of millions isn’t necessarily the best thing for a majorly depressed empath.

However, I’m feeling like this book is still something that needs to happen. So I’m battening down the hatches to start working on the research and annotated bibliographies again so a book can be written about Stalin’s atrocities.

I entreat you for your help. When I start bemoaning being bored? Please encourage me to open a book and sit at the computer?

I’m not going to be able to do this without you. And this is something that needs to be done. Stat.

Posted by: mydarkestplaces | April 16, 2022

Equal opportunity outrage

I’ve been mulling over this post for the better part of a week. What’s happening in Ukraine is abhorrent and just flat out murder. I am outraged. I think it’s disgusting and crimes against humanity.

Here’s a newsflash though.

I thought the same during the Arab Spring.

There are a lot of people raising battlecries and outrage today who ignored the Arab Spring where the same thing was happening. President Bashar Asaad has been doing much the same thing since 2011. Blowing up hospitals and killing people who were trying to help his victims.

So I get it. I get the outrage, but where was the outrage when the same thing was happening to brown and black people? Where’s the attention when the same thing DOES happen to brown and black people?

At least the blocks at borders to refugees that went up in record time during the Arab Spring are staying up in regards to the folks from the Ukraine.

I just … we should always be outraged when a polity deliberately targets civilians. It’s time we indiscriminately berate and cry out against indiscriminate killings whether on an international scale or a scale that’s next door.

Love thy neighbor as thyself is what some guy said. Let’s start working on our governments – of all scales – to legislate this. To get it in writing so it’s not just some hypothetical goal.

Let’s be better.

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